Huh? What happened? I had it all planned out so carefully

There is a lot of material that is available on the market today about success. Oddly enough, the vast majority of the material is actually written about failures as opposed to actual success. While there is really a justifiable reason for this, most of them go about it incorrectly. Their information is correct in many instances, but the logic is flawed and the conclusions are often misleading.

These books seem to take one of two extreme views as a general rule. Many of them only seek to justify people’s failures and enable them to continue feeling good about themselves when they fail. The other extreme is trying to market all of a person’s failures as successes and tell them that they are indeed on the right path if they are failing all the time.

While there is a certain amount of accurate logic behind both of these views, the failures must be looked at in prospective and lessons learned from them. The fact is that when somebody fails, it is a failure. It is not a success in disguise, and as anyone who has every failed at anything knows, there is certainly no great feeling of accomplishment which accompanies a failure.

The truth still hurts. It always has and it always will. However, that does mean that a failure is a cause or even a reason or excuse for defeat. When it is used properly and in perspective with the over all picture, than it can be used as a tool and a prevention for the next failure which is waiting in the wings around the corner.

Obviously, if a person fails, they have had a specific goal in mind. If there was no objective, than there was no way to fail. What was the goal that was being sought after? What was the reason for the failure? Can it be avoided in the future? Asking the right questions is more important than anything else. Finding the answers that fit those questions will help you to achieve that, or other goals in the future.