What was the goal where I did not succeed
Which items on your list did you fail at? In the first place, did you setup realistic goals for yourself? If you did not, then you might have just setup yourself for failure even before your journey to success started. These are the things that you will learn about in this section.
It is important to notate exactly what happened and why. What was the primary goal in the circumstances where you failed? Take a good hard look at that particular goal and see if it is actually a realistic and viable goal given your current situation. While this may once again seem quite simple to accomplish, it is not always as easy as it seems.
Almost everyone has at one time or another looked for a date. Given the number of people who have had to do that, we will look at an instance where that was the success that our example failed to reach their stated goal. But why was this person unable to find a date?
One of the most common reasons for failing to succeed is setting unrealistic goals. Perhaps this person only asked people who they would consider a dream date or the ultimate fantasy date. While this may be an honest goal that they have set for themselves, it may not be realistic or even a viable goal with any chance of success.
If this person was looking for someone that was a polar opposite and had no common ground with the people they were trying to get to go out on their date, than the goal was never well thought out or planned. Expecting things to happen only because you have set goals with them in mind is more detrimental than not having any goals at all.
This person set goals which were not attainable and by doing so, only set themselves up for failure. If this is happening on a regular basis, it will be frustrating, humiliating and often literally dangerous for the person who is only looking for a way to succeed. Maybe the failure to succeed was not something so ambitious however.
It could be that their first goal was indeed well thought out and planned. Perhaps they set small goals for themselves in order to work up to the bigger goals they had in mind for later. Apparent success can be just as bad as an abject failure in the big picture. Its difficulty to recognize can lead to major frustration in the future.
Their first goal, since they had such ambitions plans, was to actually get to speak with their potential dream date on a regular basis. Maybe it was someone that they worked with or someone they knew from common social settings. It is quite possible that they did in fact speak on a regular basis.
That would qualify their initial goals as a success. Or at least, that is how it appears on the surface. When the situations are examined closer, perhaps what it seemed to be at first glance was not really what anybody thought it was. Was this goal ever a realistic goal to begin with? Well, since the initial phase of the plan had gone through seamlessly, it certainly seemed to be heading for success.
On those grounds, there seems to be little need to review too seriously or think much about changing the plans in midstream. Still, when looked at more carefully, often in retrospect (hindsight really is 20/20) there were probably some good indications that revisions were in fact necessary.
While the conversations were taking place on a regular basis, there were irregularities that should have been noted as well. Remember, taking all of the constantly evolving factors that are associated with plans into consideration on a regular basis will help to ultimately decide whether the final goal is a success or a failure.
Whenever this party would finish the conversations, there would always be an awkward silence after the initial small talk and idle chatter was done. This should have been an indicator that there was little common ground, likely no basis for a date and certainly not enough common ground to ever establish a relationship of any means.
Snide remarks regarding this person’s attempts to gain favor with someone so distinctly different from them were increasing at a fevered pitch and were pointed out to them on a regular basis. Rather than disregarding this fact and reexamining their goals, this person chose to ignore the facts and base their decisions and dreams on emotions rather than on facts.
Progress was being made and primary goals were being met so it seemed reasonable to this person that success was imminent. They confused what they thought were small successes instead of thinking about how things were progressing and where their path would lead them. After all, small successes lead to bigger ones; only when everything works together however.
